What's The Rush?
My last post was dated, February 5th. Today Is Currently, April 15th. For starters, how are we already in the Spring of 2019? Where has the time gone? Why has it moved so fast? Also, I'm shocked at my lack of inspiration lately to find things to write about. Perhaps, it's been my inability to form coherent thoughts. If you were to take a peek at my journal the last few weeks, you might think they were the scribbles of a madwoman. Working with so many different people, helping them sort through their emotions and find balance will definitely take its toll on your own mental clarity and the time I do have for myself I'd much rather be outside of my thoughts, rather than sorting through them.
That's the killer, isn't it? Thinking. Time. Having time to think. Thinking too much. I've learned that it is so important to be responsible with your time, allowing yourself the time to feel, heal, and process. Not rushing yourself, despite the world forcing this sense of urgency upon us, this sense that we have to be on certain timelines, or that the things we want must come to us immediately otherwise why put forth any effort in waiting for that in which we want. We're trained by our surroundings to expect immediacy in our daily lives. Hungry? Click a few buttons and within 30 minutes, it shall come to you. Don't know the answer to something? Google it. Lonely? Open one of the many apps, make a couple of swipes, throw a few likes, and before you know it, you're bound to have a fish on the hook.
We live in a day and age, where literally everything is at our fingertips. A world where instant gratification is so achievable, that it honestly makes us so lazy as a society. In working with many different people on an energetic level, it seems as though, as a collective there has been a huge struggle in communication. Being open, honest. Not just with others, but ourselves. There are so many ways we can distract our brains, so many outlets, not all necessarily being healthy, in order to avoid facing and confronting the things we really need to work on within ourselves.
This is by no means an attack, considering, I too am guilty of the same behavior, but understanding when it's time to take a step back and realizing the reality of certain situations. Facing the music. Wanting things in your life, yet not putting forth the effort in order to make these things happen. Wanting that perfect relationship, but finding dissatisfaction in every attempt because it's not an instant feeling of connection. Thinking that there will always be better, yet constantly being disappointed. You've got to allow yourself the time to grow into things. You have to put in the work and effort to build foundations. The same goes for careers or pursuing passions. Things aren't always going to happen with the snap of your finger. You've got to make the commitments and stick through it even if the going get's tough. Most importantly, when it comes to working on yourself, STOP SETTLING! Majority of the time we aren't getting what we want out of life, it's our own damn faults. Being honest with yourself and actually making the effort to grow and change may be one of the hardest tasks we are faced with.
Every time I have experienced a disappointment or a setback, I find this is the most important time for me to take a step back, feel what I need to feel, process, heal, and then grow from it. So often I see people use distractions to keep themselves from taking the time to actually heal and in turn, end up repeating the same exact cycles of hurt and disappointment. I suppose it can be easier to maintain the comfort of reliving a certain experience, rather than actually confronting those nasty fears and emotions, looking in the mirror and realizing maybe it's you. It's not fun, but the beauty is as soon as you face that cold, hard, ugly truth you are one step closer to growing and evolving. Unfortunately for most, self-awareness is not enough to make the change. YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TO PUT FORTH THE EFFORT TO CHANGE! This is where I find people get stuck.
"Well, that's just who I am."
Ok, fair enough, but, then you can't complain when the same obstacles keep repeating in your life.
Patience is a virtue. Cliché, but oh so true, and something we as a society need to be reminded of. Have patience, with the people you love, the people you don't... and most importantly be patient with yourself! Challenge yourself to start seeing things from a different perspective, to really make an effort. We can get so wrapped up in our own thoughts and cycles of overthinking and overanalyzing that we let time pass us by without ever taking action, instead of remembering that sometimes the best achievements in life, are the ones that come from moments when we give ourselves the freedom wholeheartedly to go after the things we want.
