Warning: May Cause Triggers (And Healing)
Imagine a world that is completely reflected by how you feel inside. Your day-to-day thoughts and feelings projected outwards. Your beliefs manifested into a reality. What does your world look like? How does it differ from the world you live in now? What would you change if you could?
Sit down and ask yourself these questions. If you answered that your world isn't a projection of what you'd like to see well I have someone for you to blame (because I know that's what you are looking for) and well, the person to blame for all your unhappiness and perceived failures is...YOU! Oh, I'm sorry...is that not what you wanted to hear? Too bad. If you don't agree with this statement and you're still making excuses like, "well, my boss is terrible", "that other person just has it way easier than me.", "Bad parenting made me this way" or "Life just isn't fair." Then you should probably go ahead and unsubscribe IMMEDIATELY. Exit out of this page and continue blaming everyone else for why your life is not how you want it to be and guess what...I can almost guarantee life will not change for you. Now, If you are ready to take ownership of yourself and your actions then by all means continue reading. You my friend, have made the first step to recovery.
We can come up with so many excuses as to why the world is not working out in our favor. It's so easy, and most times way more comforting to put the blame on someone else than hold up the mirror to ourselves. As per my last post, it seems like something is in the air, because lately, I've been feeling triggers left and right. Old wounds that need healing. Thank God for all these triggers popping up, because it's helping me address things I still need to resolve and ultimately helping me purge and release those negative emotions. My first step in healing is that I have stopped looking at these "trigger" moments as a weakness and started seeing the positive and really directing, why do I continue to be confronted with this? What can I (EMPHASIS ON THE I!!!!!) do to heal it?
Within ten minutes of speaking with someone, I can normally pinpoint what is going on inside of that person. The things we focus on, the things we talk about, the emotions we project. They are all reflections of how we feel inside. Point. Blank. Don't argue with me on this. Please and thank you. Oh does your boss treat you like shit? Well, why do you accept to be treated like shit? Is it cause of money? Well, then ya better suck it up and take it booboo, otherwise do something about it. Are the men/women in your life taking advantage of you, walking all over you? Ask yourself this...Are you allowing it to happen?? If you are then sorry hun, but it ain't their fault...it's yours! Imagine being offered this, "Well I can give you this luxury spa session for free, or you can choose to pay 200 dollars for it. You decide." Um...? Do I need to even explain that one to you? If you aren't being respected. It's because you don't demand to be respected. Prioritize what is important to you and stick to it! "Oh, but then what if they don't like me?"
You know what my answer is to that?
Who gives a f*ck! Not me...that's who.
Ok, honestly sometimes I do, but then I remind myself that at the end of the day not everyone is going to like me. All that really matters is that I like me and sometimes when I allow myself to be treated less than...it makes me not like me so much. Do you like you? Ask yourself that seriously and when you can honestly answer that with a yes, then you'll stop caring about how others perceive you or running around worried if people are "talking about you". First of all, get over yourself. Really, people kinda don't care. Eeks. Harsh right? The reality is people are so focused on their own sh*t that they don't care about yours.
The reality is, I make mistakes. I do mess up stuff sometimes. Say mean things. Get angry. But, I take into consideration all the ways I may have brought this fate upon myself and then I FORGIVE myself. "It's ok, you crazy little b*tch. We're going to work and get through this. It's going to be OK". Sometimes you got to have conversations with yourself in order to heal. Love yourself. If you choose to hate yourself, then you are going to bring more people into your life that are gonna reflect back to you all those qualities you hate about yourself. If you are hate-reading this, hoping my life is hell. I've got news for you....I've forgiven myself. I've let it go. So anything YOU choose to hold on to is YOUR problem. Hate is such wasted energy, (even the word itself makes me feel gross) whether your hating another person or hating yourself. When we shift our negative emotions towards other people, it's not that person you feel negatively towards...it's actually yourself. Otherwise, you wouldn't fill yourself with such ugly energy. Just let it go, pumpkin. Let it goooo!
So, imagine a world where you love and nurture yourself. What does that look like on the outside? What kind of people does that bring into your life? One of my biggest learnings and shifts was understanding how to be tolerant of other people. Just like me, people have flaws. But here is the thing. Those flaws are only magnified to me because they trigger something inside of MYSELF that needs healing. This is the one time it's acceptable to sit around and say, "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!!" Instead of sitting around focusing on everything you don't like about someone, ask yourself "Why don't you like that characteristic?" Does is make you feel less than? Then why do you continuously put yourself in scenarios that make you feel that way? Think about your relationships. Are you with someone that loves you on your good days and then on bad days is constantly reminding you of all the things you need to fix about yourself? Chances are you are attracting that into your life because you yourself don't like those qualities. You'll never attract someone who loves and accepts all of you if you don't accept all of you. Chances are you have already encountered numerous people who are willing to do so but repel them because God forbid someone loves those nasty traits you dislike so much about yourself. Get it?
The truth is, you don't have to imagine a world where our insides reflect our outside because that is the REALITY. I'm very aware that the tone and topic of this post are going to trigger a lot of people, but sometimes you got to give tough love. To yourself. Every self-limiting belief we have manifests its way into reality. Thoughts are so powerful. So is emotion. When we attach the right emotions to our thoughts we can create and attract incredible things into our lives. If you create an idea that you are lacking, the universe is going to present you with more lack. If you live in a world of abundance of constant gratitude, towards yourself and others the Universe will give you more of the same. You decide. You are the creator of your life. All you have to do is believe it.
