Planting the Seeds, Healing the Collective
Every time we come into the Fall season, we give ourselves an opportunity to reflect, plant our seeds for change, and grow and develop into the new year. What are you planting this fall? What ideas are you nurturing into the upcoming year? I strongly believe in the power of the seasons and the different cycles of our lives. Therefore, I believe it is so important to take the time necessary to really evaluate where we are at in our lives. What can we improve? In what areas have you grown, and in what areas can you proceed to grow? Time can be a terrible constraint and what makes it even worse is when we get stuck in cycles and continually repeat what is comfortable vs. acknowledging the steps we must take in order to grow. So, ask yourself what habits and cycles can you break today in order to bring more happiness into your life? Really challenge yourself to break old storylines and create new ones.
All that being said, I think it’s so important to address what seems to be current collective energy in our society. The world is currently going through a lot of changes and I believe, as individuals, by speaking our truth and healing ourselves we help heal the collective. I have no interest in getting political, but from an energetic standpoint, I really do believe this #MeToo movement has such a positive effect on healing our feminine collective.
Two points I’d like to make here…when I say feminine, I don’t solely mean women. We all have both feminine and masculine energies. Men have feminine aspects that need to balanced, just as women have masculine qualities that can also get out of balance. As a collective, there is a huge imbalance. We are such a masculine driven society. Too much ego. Too much anger. Women instead of trying to compete with these masculine qualities, need to focus more on developing that nurturing feminine energy. Love, nurturing, sensitivity, all these feminine qualities are what is going to heal the world. As women, we are raised to believe that our emotions make us weak. We are raised in a culture where we are shamed for owning our sexuality/sensuality. Not only by men but by OTHER women! We live in such an emotionally repressed society that we’ve begun to dull all the things that make us incredibly special and loving beings and replaced them with fear and hate.
So, point number two brings me full circle and back to the main point of this post. Part of doing our self-analysis and healing ourselves is realizing where we’ve put our energies. What thoughts do we feed that are no longer serving us? When is it time to cut the cord and how do we do it? When traumatic events happen, we release insane amounts of energy, and I do believe that energy permeates. Sometimes when we feed the energy with more negativity like, fear, suppression, and anxiety we give life to this energy that can quite literally take on a life of it’s own and creates a “haunting” feeling. What I love about this whole Me Too movement is that these people are confronting something that has been haunting them. They are owning the trauma instead of allowing it to own them. By healing themselves, they heal the collective. So many more people have come forward and no longer feel shame or like they have to hide from this experience any longer. The amount of people who have been affected in some way or another is tragic to me, and honestly, we can do better as a society. Perception is personal, and if someone claims to have experienced trauma no matter how minor it is their personal experience. We can offer support and healing, instead of hate and anger.
So, what energy monster have you created? What have you given life to that blocks you from happiness? Whether you believe it or not, we are all sensitive to energy. Depending on what you let follow you around people feel it and you can only vibrate in whatever you put out. So how can you change the vibration?
Whether it’s career success, relationship success, or allowing more passion and happiness in your life. It’ll never flow in if you’ve created any energy force around yourself that radiates fear. Someone said to me the other day, “ Jen, you’re just a soft little sweetheart, you wish you were a badass…like me.” For starters, I’m sure you can deduce that statement came from a man. I love when people tell me their perception of me because we only see others how we see ourselves, so at that moment he showed me exactly who HE was and I immediately felt sad for that person. My response was, that you should make no mistake. I am soft, I am emotional, but I am a fucking badass. My response to anyone, who says to careless, feel less, be tougher is exactly that. Those feelings and emotions that other people are too afraid to feel, I confront, feel them fully, handle them, and express myself without fear. If you don’t think that’s badass, then try to do the same and let me know how terrified you are of a little bit of feelings.
There is so much stigma around feeling too much that it strips us of our power. We create so many irrational fears that hinder us throughout our lives. It’s easier to hide those fears in some dark corner in our mind and let it manifest into some dark cloud looming above us, instead of confronting it, feeling it, and then RELEASING IT. People who own their emotions are so easily cast aside because the reality is they reflect back to others all the fears they are unwilling to confront themselves.
Moral of the story is that times are changing. Things that were once suppressed are coming to light. Do you want to grow? Or, do you want to be stuck in an old cycle? If you think we came to this life to be robotic, unfeeling creatures…you are wrong. We came to feel, to have experiences. Sometimes that means we have to confront pain, but that's what brings moments of extreme joy. So, if you have no seeds to plant this fall, here’s your homework. Stop suppressing. Stop fearing. And just challenge yourself to actually start living.
